SG_Lancelot
09-29-2008, 12:30 AM
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Your favourite Moderator is here once again to bring you guys a self enrichment article on Anger Management. Well... I can't say that I myself have the best attitude around, but definitely, after reading this article, i daresay something inside you will Ring and you Definitely will be a lot better at Anger Management.
What Makes Us Angry??
As quoted from Dictionary.Com, the definition of Anger is resentment, exasperation, strong feelings aroused by injury, injustice, wrong, etc. Anger is the general term for a sudden violent displeasure.
The big question remains - Whats the "Anger-Factor"?
Is it because someone is scolding you unreasonably? Is it because of feeling indignant that you are wronged? Or is it simply because you are aggressive by nature? Ultimately, all the questions point to a single fact. You are angry because you retaliate when someone "hits the spot". The spot here refers to your weakness, or simply something you don't like people commenting on, or something that you are not confident with.
Hitting the Weakness
When someone criticizes you, they simply want you to feel bad. And in which they will succeed, if you do react violently to it (hurl vulgarities back). What is this weak point that others have a chance to take advantage of? Instead of going all abusive back, Why not channel that anger into something positive, like improving and covering that weakness?
Most of the time, the hardest part of doing that is the failure to identify whats wrong, or simply because the angry state of mind cannot make a sensible choice.
Anger Management
Everytime i argue with someone, and i feel that im on the verge of exploding, i try to excuse myself and have some quiet time to myself. Things will clear automatically for both parties. Tested proven and guaranteed to work.
Constantly remind yourself that anger solves nothing; it probably screws things up even more.
You can relate this to DotA, to family arguments, to friend quarrels, etc.
Summarizing all with this one quote, and it is this quote that spurred me to pen this article for our wonderful community here @DotaSG.
When someone scolds you unreasonably, we feel angry. When someone scolds the facts of us, we feel more angry. Because they hit the right weakness of ourselves.
quote credit to LiJia
Your favourite Moderator is here once again to bring you guys a self enrichment article on Anger Management. Well... I can't say that I myself have the best attitude around, but definitely, after reading this article, i daresay something inside you will Ring and you Definitely will be a lot better at Anger Management.
What Makes Us Angry??
As quoted from Dictionary.Com, the definition of Anger is resentment, exasperation, strong feelings aroused by injury, injustice, wrong, etc. Anger is the general term for a sudden violent displeasure.
The big question remains - Whats the "Anger-Factor"?
Is it because someone is scolding you unreasonably? Is it because of feeling indignant that you are wronged? Or is it simply because you are aggressive by nature? Ultimately, all the questions point to a single fact. You are angry because you retaliate when someone "hits the spot". The spot here refers to your weakness, or simply something you don't like people commenting on, or something that you are not confident with.
Hitting the Weakness
When someone criticizes you, they simply want you to feel bad. And in which they will succeed, if you do react violently to it (hurl vulgarities back). What is this weak point that others have a chance to take advantage of? Instead of going all abusive back, Why not channel that anger into something positive, like improving and covering that weakness?
Most of the time, the hardest part of doing that is the failure to identify whats wrong, or simply because the angry state of mind cannot make a sensible choice.
Anger Management
Everytime i argue with someone, and i feel that im on the verge of exploding, i try to excuse myself and have some quiet time to myself. Things will clear automatically for both parties. Tested proven and guaranteed to work.
Constantly remind yourself that anger solves nothing; it probably screws things up even more.
You can relate this to DotA, to family arguments, to friend quarrels, etc.
Summarizing all with this one quote, and it is this quote that spurred me to pen this article for our wonderful community here @DotaSG.
When someone scolds you unreasonably, we feel angry. When someone scolds the facts of us, we feel more angry. Because they hit the right weakness of ourselves.
quote credit to LiJia